It’s not your fault.
I’m here to tell you as many times as you need to hear it: this trauma that happened to you—it is not your fault.
People are responsible for their own behavior.
Sometimes, when trauma occurs, we internalize it. We think it says something about us—that there’s something wrong with us.
But that’s just not true.
It says *EVERYTHING* about the person causing us harm. They are telling on themselves. Their actions say everything about who they really are—bullies that see other people as objects for their own selfish gratification. Bullies that use others for punching bags.
The only thing it says about *US* is that *WE ARE SURVIVORS.*
We are strong. We’re still alive. We can heal from this. Nothing is broken here that can’t be fixed.
We choose how to put ourselves back together, which is such a beautiful thing.
We can rebuild and become everything we want to be. Our future is bright with possibilities.
It’s not your fault. None of it was your fault. It was never your fault.
It’s not your fault.
It’s not your fault.
It’s not your fault.
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I have stolen some cognitive processing therapy (CPT) exercises that my trauma specialist gave me a while back, designed to help rewire neural pathways—ways of thinking.
It targets that internalized self-blame, and is meant to help pull you out of that headspace. It helps rewire your ways of thinking so you can see situations more clearly.
My favorite page is at the end here, which is the “Challenging Beliefs Worksheet.”
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My website is a mess, I apologize. I’m going to fix it up one of these days.
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