I want you to know that you matter. YOU do. Your existence makes a difference every single day, whether you realize it or not. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Please remember this. You matter. Your hopes and dreams matter. Your life matters. That’s just the way it is.
That means that it’s okay to say no to some things. You don’t have to end each day exhausted. You really don’t. It’s okay to set limits so that you have sufficient time to relax and recharge. You deserve to rest. In fact, you *need* to rest in order for your brain and body to function at their best. Your brain absolutely cannot do this without rest and sleep. Sleep is when the brain heals itself from wear and tear of the day.
It is also perfectly okay to set boundaries with people. To draw a line in the sand and say, “You are NOT allowed to cross this line.”
While the people around you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect—no matter how you feel about them—they absolutely do NOT have the right to make you feel horrible about yourself, abuse you or use you. Because, quite simply, you also deserve to be treated with kindness and respect.
So I want to share a thought with you: Pay attention to how people make you feel.
You might not realize right away that someone is making you feel awful. You might pawn your frustration off on something you read in the news, poor sleep, bad traffic, or a cloudy day. And maybe that is the case! But, if these feelings are popping up more and more often, and are subtly starting to take on a self-destructive form, take a moment to reflect on your day. Think of who you were with and see if there isn’t a person associated with these earthquakes.
You hear it all the time: “You choose how something is going to affect you.” And while this is true to a degree, whether we like it or not, the people we are around regularly, DO affect us! And sometimes, choosing how something is going to affect you, is learning to recognize what is causing earthquakes in your life, and walking away from it.
Taking the best care of your mental well-being will give you the ability to be the kindest and strongest version of yourself.